Monday Morning Warm Up- A quote that gives you hope

Monday Morning Warm-Up (courtesy Jo Knowles): Share a quote that makes you think and feel hopeful.

One of my friends forwarded a quote to me late last year and it has become my mantra, chiefly the word PERSIST.

I don’t know why, and I suppose I am not the only one, but I am encouraged when I hear about people who are famous for their craft struggling, like I do, to create. It makes me feel more normal and human and less like a talentless hack. I guess in some ways I seek validation in that, in knowing that I’m not the only one doesn’t know what to write after the end of Chapter 1.

The only difference between a failure and a success is persistence. People who persist eventually end up somewhere with something to be proud of.

If you haven’t seen this post at lettersofnote.com, please take a second and visit the site.  Austin Madison of PIXAR, who penned the note, wrote:

PERSIST on telling your story. PERSIST on reaching your audience. PERSIST on staying true to your vision… the next time you hit writer’s block, or your computer crashes and you lose an entire night’s work because you didn’t hit save (always hit save), just remember: you’re never far from that next burst of divine creativity.

Work through that 97% of murky abysmal mediocrity to get to that 3% which everyone will remember you for! I guarantee you, the art will be well worth the work!

That gives me hope. It makes me feel like all this hard work, laboring down here in the salt mines will someday be worth it.

PERSIST

Monday Warm-Up 1/16:”I want to write something that…”

Thanks to Jo Knowles for posting these! This is my first Monday Morning Warm-Up
“Write to the prompt: “I want to write something that will…”

One of my fave music artists once said that he wanted to be a part of a song that lived on forever. Even after his career was over or he was long gone, when people listened to that song, they’d know he was a part of it.

I think that artists- musicians and painters and sculptors and writers want the same thing, to create something that lives on beyond them and bears the mark of their effort, their talent, their dedication.

I want to write something that speaks to people’s hearts, perhaps reminds them of someone or something in their lives. Most of all I want to write something that entertains and brings joy, provides a space for escaping life as we know it and living the lives of fictional characters through my words.

 

That “OMG! THIS!!!” Moment

First of all, thanks to Skinny Black Girl for posting the link that is responsible for today’s post, because I read it and thought… “OMG! THAT!”

Except this post isn’t about exercise, because we all know I’m not doing any of that. My whole…. what’s a better word for plan without saying plan? I don’t know. This year, we’ll say, is about DOING.  I’m reading through my blog posts via my Google Reader today and I come upon today’s post at Skinny Black Girl. She referenced an article in Harvard Business Review entitled “Your Problem Isn’t Motivation.”

He could not be speaking more truth if he was living inside my head. Read the article in its entirety here, but let’s take a look at the scoop (edits are mine):

Each attempt to “motivate”… will only increase … stress and guilt as it widens the gap between … motivation and his follow-through. We have a misconception that if we only cared enough about something, we would do something about it. But that’s not true.

Motivation is in the mind; follow-through is in the practice. Motivation is conceptual; follow-through is practical. In fact, the solution to a motivation problem is the exact opposite of the solution to a follow through problem. The mind is essential to motivation. But with follow through, it’s the mind that gets in the way.

Here’s the key: if you want to follow through on something, stop thinking.

Shut down the conversation that goes on in your head before it starts. Don’t take the bait. Stop arguing with yourself.

Make a very specific decision about something you want to do and don’t question it. By very specific, I mean things like: I will work out  write  tomorrow tonight … or I will only point out the things my employee does right or I will say at least one thing in the next meeting.

Then, when your mind starts to argue with you — and I guarantee it will — ignore it. You’re smarter than your mind. You can see right through it.

I said something to a twiend yesterday–he was congratulating himself on awesome willpower to stop eating out and drinking alcohol. I reminded him that he was successful because he was strong and determined to stick to his decision to cut those things out, not because of some magical force called Will Power. In my humble opinion, will power does not exist. It’s the name we give to the ability to make a decision and stick to it, no matter what.

When doing becomes rote and usual and automatic, we stop thinking about it. We stop trying to motivate ourselves, push ourselves, guilt ourselves into accomplishing our goals. In a short time, we realize that we don’t have to talk so much about what we’re going to do. We just do. 

I realize I’m harping on this point a lot, and that’s because it is huge for me and I think it might be huge for other people at this point in life, where writing isn’t a full time job and we don’t make any money and we don’t really have an audience or a platform or even a project. Writing can be a choice for us, so we must actually choose it. This is the point where we who work outside the home in full time permanent positions sit at our desks and plan and dream and attempt to motive. Nay, even bribe ourselves. “I’ll write for two hours and then I watch X TV show or read X book.” Except that by the time you get home, you’ve been beat with the tired stick and the only thing that sounds good is the the leather of the couch underneath your behind.

What if we stopped thinking and stopped talking and stopped bargaining– in essence trying to motivate ourselves– and just instilled some follow through?

What if we just did it? 

Something to think about, hm?

So yesterday I DID some things. I have a novel that’s been rattling around in my head for over a year and this year I have determined that it will be written. It might suck. It might not suck. Whichever thing happens, it will be written. I started this project many months ago, became frustrated with it and dumped it. I’ve picked it back up again and giving it another go.

Yesterday I found a wonderful character survey HERE. It’s pretty much an in depth study of your character, his or her personality, past, motivations, fears, etc. You fill in all your info, press submit and PRESTO. You get a PDF of a character profile  to save in your (my) project folder. It took me about a half hour or so to do just ONE character last night, in addition to busting out my journal to write out the basics about each of them.

I want to know my characters forward and backward. Even if I don’t use all of the information I know about them, what I know helps form their personality and that personality comes out in the book. Asking myself questions like ‘where was she born, where did she go to school, what’s her personal style, what does she drive, what’s her relationship with her parents/siblings,’ etc helps me create a more well rounded character.

I did this for one character last night. I have five more to go. Feb 1 begins some serious writing.

Sunday Snip- A Few More Points

Getting back into this groove! I wrote two stories for our annual Secret Santa Story Exchange at the fiction archive. One was a gift, the other was a fill in for a writer who could not complete her story. I spent about three weeks on my gift story and liked it a lot by the time I posted it. I spent about five hours writing the fill in and frankly, liked it a ton more. No idea what that means, but interesting turnabout of events. It also means that I can no longer say that I can’t write ‘off the cuff’. If I have an idea, clearly I can.

Today’s snip is from the second story I wrote entitled A Few More Points. Read the story in its entirety here or here. Enjoy!

If she wasn’t drunk, she wouldn’t have done this. Thank goodness she was drunk

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So these Anti Resolutions I’ve set…

It’s Wednesday. I am blogging. I did not announce a plan to blog. I opened WordPress and started writing.

This is how my antiresolutions are going to have to go. And you know? It’s hard!

I think it’s second nature to announce what we’re planning to do. And to plan! Failing to plan is planning to fail, is how that saying goes. Though, I think planning and then not executing said plan has a lot to do with failure as well. When you eliminate the planning and the announcement of the planning, there’s nothing left but to DO.

It was my….plan….to read a lot in January and take a break on the writing, particularly because life is pretty slow and droll for me during this month. I’ve read 3 books so far (really) and am on #4. I’ve been picking books that seem easy to get through, around 300 pages. Reading for the sheer enjoyment of it.

Sunday, I picked up Between Friends, a novel by a writer that I follow on twitter DL Sparks. This is her third novel, and as usual with her, I can’t stop reading once I start.

Then I read a mystery/detective type novel- Blindsighted by Karen Slaughter. This story line was… weird. Intriguing, but weird! I watch Criminal Minds and Discovery ID though so I’m used to weird. Couldn’t have been too bad… I’ve started on the 2nd book in the series!

Yesterday I read Crash Into You, a debut novel by one of my writing inspirations, Roni Loren.  This is a steamy erotic romance about two people who were lovers in a past life, reconnecting in a uhmmmmm very sizzling way. You’ll have to read the book to find out what I mean, but Crash Into You is a well written, entertaining debut. Very proud of Roni.

I was talking to a friend last night about these writer people I know releasing books. This time last year I would have been so jealous I couldn’t see straight. This year,  I’m not. I mean, I’d love for it to happen to me, but I’ve discovered that the only thing standing between me and a completed novel is……..me. So once I get out of my own way, it’ll happen to me, too.

I wish I could report on the writing, but I haven’t done any. And according to my mantra for this year, I’m not going to plan to do it either. I’ll let you know when I’ve done some and how it went.

See? HARD!

My Anti-Resolutions: The Search for Life After Planning

Well, here we are again, BlogPeople. Clean slate, new year, fresh start and all that. I’ve already read so many posts about Writing Goals for the year and pushing yourself further and doing more while doing less while standing on your head and don’t forget to feed the fish!

Every year, we use this fresh, blemish free calendar to symbolically start over. Refresh. Reboot. And while I recognize the impact and significance of such, that process has to actually work for you, otherwise it’s just a waste of time. I mean, let’s face it folks– I’m addicted to planning.

Oh, I have plans and goals. Long term and short term. I have writing schedules and big dreams and lists of things I should be thinking about doing during any particular free moment of the day. I am so good at planning that I don’t have any time to EXECUTE SAID PLAN.

Yeah……..about those plans? You’ve got to actually work at them, in order for them to be meaningful, otherwise it’s like being unemployed and planning on being a millionaire. Doesn’t work.

Back when I was a workerbee for an audio visual company, we would watch these Stanford Business training videos called The Search for Life After Planning– how to move yourself from having goals to celebrating achievements. These involve setting goals and implementing strategies to make them happen- say what you’re going to do and then what steps you’re going to take to do accomplish them.

While I’ve done that in the past and it has been an underwhelming experience, I still believe in Life After Planning. What do you do after you write down this list of things you want to do? For me, it’s more about what I’m not going to do.

I can justify anything. I can make an excuse out of nothing. I can plan all day to come home and write for two hours and then get home and find an arbitrary reason not to write. This year, I’m combatting that with talking about things I’m not going to do. For example:

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2011- What I Did With My Year

Year end is fast approaching and I’m sure all of my blog friends are busily preparing their final posts and goals for 2012, gearing up to pounce on the New Year. I’m still figuring out what I want to do with my year, next year. I don’t know that I want to “set goals” per se… because having a list of things to do isn’t very motivating to me. Rather, I do things that inspire and energize and propel me towards better writing and better writing habits. When I look back on what I’ve accomplished this year, I certainly wouldn’t have written myself a list of to-do’s this long:

- Finished up a long serial fiction story that I started in January 2009 as a hundred word prompt from Writer’s Digest. It continues to be my “baby”.
- Read 50+ books. I mentioned this before but I’m very proud of achieving that goal! Next year I’m increasing my goal to 60- join me!
- Wrote 120K + words. Yep. That’s a lotta typing.
- Wrote 8 short stories.
-  Four of those 8 were original fiction!
- Started two books- one creative non fiction, one fiction novel. Both are stalled at the moment.
- Joined Atlanta Writer’s Club and Georgia Writer’s Association
- Got knocked down. Got back up again.
- Joined/participated in DIYMFA
- Met four authors: Susan Rebecca White, Kathryn Stockett, Tayari Jones, and Bernice McFadden
- Put my writing on display by joining Six Sentence Sunday
- Featured at Wellness & Writing Connections Newsletter, Storyfix.com and Indie Ink.org
- Led three fiction writing challenges at the Fiction Archive

While I’m in the middle of something, I’m slowly simmering and worrying that I’m not doing enough or writing enough or reading enough or learning enough. I’m not available enough for beginning writers and I’m not paying enough attention to those I can learn from…. but when I step back and take a look at the big picture… it’s a very pretty painting of something I’m very proud of.
Here’s to a busier and better 2012, in which I will PERSIST.

 

123,474.

123,474. That’s my total word count for 2011. Quite a bit shy of my goal of 350K, so it’s a good thing I dropped that challenge, eh?

I’ve finished my Secret Santa story for the fiction archive and I don’t plan to do anymore writing this year, so I’m publishing this number as my 2011 count. Still not too shabby for a year when I had unplanned, haphazard writing and didn’t have a serial story to update for most of the year.

I’m planning to take January off from writing. My creative muscle is so tired. I have no ideas, really and I feel like I need to feed my imagination. I’ll be spending January reading as much as possible and trying to prime the pump for ideas and goals for the new year.

30 Days of Books- Willful Disobedience

I’m skipping today’s question– favorite book you own because seriously? I own a lot of books and I love them ALLLLLL. Picking a favorite isn’t happening.

Instead I will yammer about writing and reading. How’s that?

Last week during my luxurious Thanksgiving break, I read three books, which put me a couple of books ahead in the Goodreads Challenge I set for myself. I’m hoping I’ll finish the year over goal, which would be great. I read two books by Hillary Jordan- When She Woke and Mudbound. Both were excellent. I don’t remember the third book… must not have been remarkable. ;)

I am still plugging away on my gift for the Story Exchange. I am on idea #4 now. I mean, at least the ideas keep coming? I’m hoping I have something I can write to the end. Or if it does, that another idea comes to me because… errr. Yeah. It’s due soon!

I think that’s about it from this front. The year is winding down and I’m already thinking about what goals I want to achieve next year.

How about you? Is 2012 knocking on your door already?

30 Days of Books – Day 13: Favorite Writer

Day 13 – Your favorite writer

I don’t know. Is that a copout? I could be pretentious here and say Jane Austen, but she’s not really my favorite, LOL.

There are a few authors out there that I love and I read nearly everything they publish: John Grisham, Jon Lescroart, Gillian Flynn, and back in the day, I loved LaVyrle Spencer. A favorite writer, though? I’m not really sure I have one. I’ve certainly put down a Grisham if I didn’t like it, skipped a Lescroart if the synopsis doesn’t look like something I want to dive into. I’m more turned on by a story, and even if the author is an unknown, if the story is good, I’ll read it. And then read everything else they’ve written.

Snip! It’s Sunday! 11/20

I haven’t done this for awhile, but since I am writing a new story over at the archive, I decided to post a snippet for today. The new story is called Schizophrenic. It uncurls a tale of interruption of the idyllic life of a former popstar who still has one ultra devoted fan. Not only is she obsessive, but she is mentally ill and believes that the pop star is talking to her through his music.

This scene is from Chapter 1. My main characters have just returned from their anniversary dinner to find something not quite right about the house. They’re in the car, waiting for the police to arrive and check it out.  This story is in progress over at the NF Archive.

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