My Anti-Resolutions: The Search for Life After Planning

Well, here we are again, BlogPeople. Clean slate, new year, fresh start and all that. I’ve already read so many posts about Writing Goals for the year and pushing yourself further and doing more while doing less while standing on your head and don’t forget to feed the fish!

Every year, we use this fresh, blemish free calendar to symbolically start over. Refresh. Reboot. And while I recognize the impact and significance of such, that process has to actually work for you, otherwise it’s just a waste of time. I mean, let’s face it folks– I’m addicted to planning.

Oh, I have plans and goals. Long term and short term. I have writing schedules and big dreams and lists of things I should be thinking about doing during any particular free moment of the day. I am so good at planning that I don’t have any time to EXECUTE SAID PLAN.

Yeah……..about those plans? You’ve got to actually work at them, in order for them to be meaningful, otherwise it’s like being unemployed and planning on being a millionaire. Doesn’t work.

Back when I was a workerbee for an audio visual company, we would watch these Stanford Business training videos called The Search for Life After Planning– how to move yourself from having goals to celebrating achievements. These involve setting goals and implementing strategies to make them happen- say what you’re going to do and then what steps you’re going to take to do accomplish them.

While I’ve done that in the past and it has been an underwhelming experience, I still believe in Life After Planning. What do you do after you write down this list of things you want to do? For me, it’s more about what I’m not going to do.

I can justify anything. I can make an excuse out of nothing. I can plan all day to come home and write for two hours and then get home and find an arbitrary reason not to write. This year, I’m combatting that with talking about things I’m not going to do. For example:

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30 Days of Books- Willful Disobedience

I’m skipping today’s question– favorite book you own because seriously? I own a lot of books and I love them ALLLLLL. Picking a favorite isn’t happening.

Instead I will yammer about writing and reading. How’s that?

Last week during my luxurious Thanksgiving break, I read three books, which put me a couple of books ahead in the Goodreads Challenge I set for myself. I’m hoping I’ll finish the year over goal, which would be great. I read two books by Hillary Jordan- When She Woke and Mudbound. Both were excellent. I don’t remember the third book… must not have been remarkable. ;)

I am still plugging away on my gift for the Story Exchange. I am on idea #4 now. I mean, at least the ideas keep coming? I’m hoping I have something I can write to the end. Or if it does, that another idea comes to me because… errr. Yeah. It’s due soon!

I think that’s about it from this front. The year is winding down and I’m already thinking about what goals I want to achieve next year.

How about you? Is 2012 knocking on your door already?

Catching Up!

It’s been a whirlwind week at Chez Jones, and this week is going to be a bit of one, too. Therefore, I got no writing done. Not really a big deal since I have zero ideas and nothing I’m really working on ATM. Im  fresh out of ideas, so maybe this is a good time for another one of those breaks I’m so famous for.

I did a lot of flying and a lot of waiting in hotel rooms, so I got some reading done, so much that I am two books ahead of my GoodReads goal for 2011! Woot! I only have 10 more books to read to hit my goal of 50 books read this year. Amazingly awesome. Quite proud of that, even though it makes me sound like the most boring person on the planet.

Oh, well.

I won’t have any issues finding books to read… I’ve ordered a crapton over the last week, all to do with the WIP I thought I was writing for NaNoWriMo. Crazy thing? I don’t want to write that story anymore. Bleh. I wish I had an idea I cared about that would stick.

Anywhoozle. This coming weekend I am going to be out of town so hopefully I will find something to write about this week.

 

Kindle Fire or stick to my Nook Color? A comparison…

It’s no secret that I’m a Gadget Geek. I own two Smartphones, a laptop, a DVR, and an eReader.  Rather than look at shoes and skirts and jewelry and makeup, I’m interested in the next big thing coming down the Tech Pipeline.

This week, social media has been all-twitter (pun intended) with the release of the Kindle Fire. I ignored the announcement at first because I went with a Nook Color instead of a Kindle for specific reasons. I’ve recently heard rumors that Barnes & Noble may have a Nook Color 2 in the works and now my interest is piqued!

Note:  I’m a Geek, not a Nerd. :)  I’m not well versed on highly technical terminology and requirements.  Ice Cream Sandwich is a yummy after dinner treat to me, not a software term. I look at eReaders and gadgets and try to imagine everything I might want to do with the product. There are hundreds of technical blogs and TechNerds battling over those details out there. This blog is purely regarding my interest in tablets and eReaders.

When I was searching for a device, I needed to answer a few questions:

1) How much am I willing to pay for it?

2) What, exactly, am I planning to do with it?

3) Do I need it? And if not, what additions or options might sway me to purchase it?

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DIYMFA: Learning From The Masters- Reading List

This week’s prompt is more of a list. Actually, it is exactly a list, a reading list of books from several categories:

Competitive- My WIP’s closest competition

Informative- Research books and those that match my WIP in subject but not exactly genre

Contemporary- This list will likely flux the most. It is basically what sits at the top of my TBR Pile- new and exciting books in my genre that I can’t wait to read.

The Classics – Self explanatory. I find I’ve read more of these than I thought I had. I picked a few I’d like to read but I’m sure this list will change as well.

I’ve attached my list here:  Reading list DIYMFA

This. RIGHT HERE. THIS. ‘Don’t Flinch’

Sometimes (often, everyday, but still) I read something that speaks to me exactly where I am. Maybe I am struggling with feelings of self-doubt or just plain doubt and worry that I can do what I’ve set my mind to do.

I’m having a rough day today and tomorrow is likely to be more of the same, but I feel very… encouraged and emboldened by this post from Jessica Corra today. I just started following her (I stalk your blogroll and twitter links people… you should just know that… ). I like everything she has to say but today, especially her words today are speaking to me. Read the entire post but this part? This part right here? YES.

You only have one life. Don’t flinch from it. Don’t be afraid to live the life you want – need – can have. It’s not easy – nothing worthwhile is. The fight to get there will make the arrival that much more meaningful.  

 

Just do. It you fuck it up, do it over.  Turn your life upside down. On purpose. I can’t even begin to pontificate on what that means to me or what I am going to do with it, but it definitely hit me where I’m living right now.

Don’t flinch. Just do it.

The Rare Saturday Post- Reading, Writing, and Random Babbling

*waves to BlogLand*

I have been a bit absent this week. Mostly because I didn’t have much to say and I’m not one to post just for posting’s sake. And, as Sierra Godfrey mentioned in a great post this week, readers don’t really care what your excuses are for not blogging; nor do they care for silly filler posts. I happen to completely agree, so I don’t do them.

It has been a busy month for me though. Over at the Fan Fiction archive, we have been running a month long challenge. Writers sign up for a specific day and on that day, they post a completed story of 1,000 words or more. Once it is posted, it’s my job as Challenge Master (I just made that name up for myself) to publicize the author and their story all day. Everyday. On top of also running a fansite for a music group, my life outside of writing/ reading is pretty active.

And then there’s that. I’ve not done a whole lot of writing, lately. I wrote two stories for the aforementioned challenge. Both got pretty small reactions, but that they got comments at all is great, I suppose. A friend and I were discussing this phenomenon a few weeks ago, where when I posted stories in the past, I got lots of comments and lately I get very few. I started to worry that I lost my touch, my mojo, my writing fu. We discovered, though, that readers seem to like the chase. They like waiting for an update and slowly allowing themselves to identifywith the characters. When I write a story, however, I finish it and then I post it, in case I want to change/clarify something later. I can’t go back and change something I have already posted. And then I dump it on the archive and people read it all in one sitting, in one fell swoop and don’t feel as close to the characters as they would if I had spaced it out.

What it all comes down to is that I am impatient. I want people to read it all right now. I’m not much of a tease. Working on it, though!

I posted a short piece for the Story Fix Peer Review Page and then sent my friends and followers over there to harass and/or comment on the post. It turned out pretty well and I feel like I got some good advice from the writing community. And a few “wow”s, which… I’m not going to lie, felt really great. REALLY great. The piece wasn’t torn apart and I feel like it was a good representation of my writing.

I have been doing a lot of reading. I’m doing the GoodReads Reading Challenge. I committed to reading 50 books this year. I’m at 30 and I am 2 books behind. I’m really tempted to pick some short novellas and finish them to boost my count, but I feel like that would be cheating, so I am doing my best to stay on top of my TBR pile. My hiatus from the written word hurt me a bit but I am rapid and voracious reader. I was five books behind!  In the last month I have read:  Continue reading

#FridayReads, the Long Lost Participant Edition

 Haven’t done this in awhile. Back when I had my breakdown I stopped doing everything, including reading. I committed to reading 50 books this year and I am behind by about four books, so I am back in the saddle.

Just finished:

Silver Sparrow by Tayari Jones - incredibly compelling read. The first part sets the scene… part two sort of blew the top off of my head.  I just kept turning pages to find out what else was going to happen, while biting my nails and trying not to blink. Fantastic book, my fave from Ms. Jones, though I did really enjoy The Untelling.

 Recently started:

Snowy Night Seduction  by Arianna Hart- Just started this one, lightly paranormal. I’m starting to be able to stand a bit of the genre but I’ll never be a twilight/fairy prince/zombie apocalypse reader.

Married 2 Struggle  by Varrsity  -Suggested to me by a twitter follower. I’ve read the first few pages and I’m captivated. Can’t wait to dig in!

Up Next:

The Lies That Bind  by D.L. Sparks- For some reason when I discover an author, I am compelled to read everything they’ve written. I follow Ms. Sparks on twitter and pre-ordered her next book, but how can I read that one when I haven’t read this one?!

I’ve recently added a ton of Pearl Cleage to my list… I have two eBooks from her that I’ll start soon. Looking forward to it.

I’m supposed to be reading one “writing craft” book a month. Meh. They just don’t really tell me anything. I do have the Write Great Fiction Series that I haven’t finished, so I can leaf through that, I guess. I just don’t really get much from reading books. I get far more from blogs and from practice.

Those are my Friday Reads! What’re yours?

Hope everyone plans to have a fantastic weekend!

AWC: Using Passive Voice & Guest Bernice McFadden

Hello, fellow writers. It has been a LONG day. I did a little shopping (read: I went to Target for Charmin and spent $37) and attended my first Writer’s Club meeting, which was very exciting because we had a guest speaker today: Ms. Bernice McFadden, author of Sugar, Glorious, Nowhere is a Place and 9 other novels. I read Sugar in 2009 and STILL tell everyone to read it when they ask me about great books. I posted my review of Sugar here.

Our meeting started with a 5 minute grammar lesson by English teacher Mary Grace Schaap on Passive Voice and when to use it. The lesson was really instrumental, because I can count on two hands how many times I’ve read advice to avoid it. However, Ms Schaap showed us how using Passive Voice adds a little style and mystery to your writing, no matter the genre. Most often, it is used when you want to hide certain details.

Verbs can either be active or passive. In active voice, the verb is said to do or be. It is direct. In passive voice, the object is acted upon. The effect is wordy and the sentence lacks spice but is most useful when the attention belongs on the person or thing being acted upon, and not the action itself or when the do-er is unimportant. In fact, the do-er can in many cases be left off of the end of the sentence, especially if you’re suing a  ’by’ as in the policy was approved by the committee. It’s just superfluous words. 

Crime novels and journalists use Passive Voice:

The missing child was found a mile from her home

The jewels were stolen in broad daylight

Mistakes were made

Genres like poetry use Passive Voice beautifully:

Soothed by the Sea

Rocked by waves

The key, said Ms Schaap, is to know WHY you’re using Passive Voice. Recognize the effect or style that you want to put into your piece and you’ll stand up to any proofreader or editor’s criticism. Great lesson, and she used sentence diagrams, which I used to LOVE in English classes. I was the nerd grinning in the fifth row. :)

After our 5 Minute Grammar primer, the President of the Club introduced Bernice McFadden. Ms. McFadden began her talk by taking us through the journey of her career. As a child, she was a voracious reader, digesting mostly picture books until she found some Harold Robbins and Jackie Collins novels that weren’t meant for such young eyes. It reminded me of when I was about 12 and found my mother’s stash of VC Andrews. I was forbidden to read them, but over the course of the summer, read the entire Flowers in The Attic series and have never been the same. After writing a pretty graphic story (of which she had no idea what she’d really written, since she’d just lifted sentences and phrases from the books she read), thus began her journey as a writer.  Continue reading

The Peach Keeper by Sarah Addison Allen [Review]

The Peach KeeperThe Peach Keeper by Sarah Addison Allen

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This is my second book by Sarah Addison Allen and I really enjoyed it. I’m a reader of pretty heavy material, so every once in awhile, I like to clear my palate with some lighter fare and Ms Allen always delivers a fun, indulgent read laced with sweetness and a little bit of magic.

Willa Jackson, Colin and Paxton Osgood, and Sebastian Rogers all went to high school together and all but Paxton (who never left) returned years later, completely changed people. The story centers around a Gala, a formal party to celebrate the re-opening of the Blue Ridge Madam, led by Paxton and the Women’s Society. Just as the Madam is about to open,a skeleton is found, tying Willa, Colin and Paxton together via their ancestors and a well kept secret.

The Peach Keeper is more than a story about a magical man who smelled of peaches and once held an entire town under his spell, and who suddenly and mysteriously disappeared… and then reappeared as a skeleton just as Walls of Water’s premiere luxury hotel was to reopen. It is a story of regrets, of self reinvention, of resistance to change and letting go of fears, and most of all of being true to oneself.

There was a lot less magic in this book than in The Girl Who Chased the Moon– I really expected more and perhaps the story could have benefited from it, but I also felt the story was full– each character had a purpose for being in the book and each character lived up to his or her potential. I especially enjoyed the scandal between Tucker, Agatha (Paxton and Colin Osgood’s grandmother), and Georgie (Willa Jackson’s grandmother. I wanted there to be a bit more detail about covering up the secret and what it had taken to keep it quiet.

And I’ll say this, because romances in books, by definition are unrealistic, but the romantic connections, to me, seem to be a stretch. Too pat and perfect and… unrealistic. I guess I am hard to please, and these relationships needed to form in order to push the story along. I was happy to see some old friendships rekindle, and some begin for the first time. I’m still sort of appalled that people still live in the town where they went to high school.

I gave this book 4 of 5 stars, purely because I enjoyed it so much!

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Ivy Hall Spring Writer’s Series presents:Kathryn Stockett & Susan Rebecca White

This evening (or last night, by the time anyone reads this) I attended a joint lecture given at the Savannah College of Art and Design. Their Ivy Hall Writer’s Series invites current published authors to come and speak to artists and writers attending the college. The lectures are free and open to the public.
Tonight, Ivy Hall was graced by Kathryn Stockett, author of The Help and Susan Rebecca White, author of a Soft Place to Land and Bound South. I truly enjoyed listening to both authors speak, share their stories, read an excerpt of their novels and impart advice.

Susan Rebecca White spoke first, on a topic that I could really relate to. She used to think the writing world was separate from the living world… that writing was pure, it was to close yourself off from life and the internet and the phone and everything and be alone in your thoughts. She came to realize, though, that life filters its way into writing, that  writing is infused with daily life. It’s sitting on a bus or at a Cafe and inventing stories about who’s sitting across the table from you; it’s watching how people act and interact with or towards each other and noting how they seem tense or at ease, comfortable or stressed out and inserting those emotions and behaviors into your writing. She said that she came to discover that we write what we live, and writing things that mean something to us helps us to understand those things more deeply.

I had never heard of Ms White, but I’ve added her books — written about young, southern women– to my Goodreads “To Read” pile. I’ll be picking them up as soon as I can. Cannot wait to dig into them.

Kathryn Stockett, who had just the loveliest southern drawl, was the second speaker. Her main point– Create art that breaks the rules. When asked what inspired her, she said that thinking about everything she learned as a child and throughtout her life as an absolute truth was absolutely absurd. She said that she wrote to break the rules, to talk about what no one else is talking about, to color outside the lines. Her Best selling book, The Help, is such a testament to that, to women who are living nearly unaware of the world changing around them and yet cannot help but step outside the usual lines of normalcy and effect a change for themselves and their small town.

After each author gave their speech, there was a short question and answer session. I think the most compelling question and answer was about the writing process – if writing becomes easier after you’ve been published. Both emphatically shook their heads NO.  “After you get your contract and everything and all you’re SUPPOSED to do is write, it’s hard, “ said Susan. “I think the struggle is motivating and inspiring.”

Kathryn agreed. “I think the idea of having to prove yourself is the most motivating thing, ever. And, you know, my next book was due in January, so maybe I’ll get some kind of inspiration from being beyond deadline and breaking the rules a little!”

I very much enjoyed the experience. I opted not to purchase all three books and get them signed, though. Mostly because I am cheap and would rather buy used copies. HA!